One of the biggest problems I have heard guys mention is that it appears a woman is interested in them but the conversation becomes boring and then dies out. There can be many reasons for this, however the solution is learn how to lead and direct dynamic interesting conversations that build attraction and an emotional connection. To develop an interaction with a woman in a romantic way you need to be able to capture and lead her emotions and that also engages her in a challenging way. This is where it helps to have stories and routines prepared to help get past the period of initially getting to know each other and establishing some basic rapport. Having an idea of what you can say also helps you relax and pay more attention to her without worrying what to say next.
Some good routines include handwriting analysis, which is easy to learn to use and implement using a product called the grapho deck. Other routines include tarot cards, magic tricks, the cube and many more. Knowing one of two routines gives you something to do with the woman which involves her active participation, is emotionally engaging, and challenges her to prove herself in a way that goes beyond her physical appearance. Depending on the kind of routine it can take anywhere from 5 – 20 minutes early on in the conversation and it will introduce topics and reveal things about her that can provide hooks for other things you can talk about.
Another technique that you can do is ask questions that get require a deeper level of thought for her to answer them. For example if you ask a woman what she does for a living and she says that she is a teacher you can then add some depth to the conversation by asking a question like, so what is it about teaching that you find most interesting/ fascinating/ compelling. This will get her talking in a way that gets her thinking about and talking about deeper more meaningful concepts. You can then continue to build rapport by actively listening and by building upon what she says with your own stories.
Another conversational style is to have humorous banter. This is a conversational skill that you can learn to build by being cocky and by busting on her in a funny way that is challenging and shows that you do not take her too seriously. If you have a sarcastic wit you might do this naturally with friends and others that you are already close to. The key is to realize that you can talk to someone you have known only a brief period of time as if you have already known them for a longer period of time. This can build feelings of comfort and familiarity as well as create an atmosphere where you are not taking her too seriously or trying to be too nice, something that many men instinctively do when they are talking to an attractive woman.
So there you have a couple tools and approaches to creating interesting conversations. Stay tuned for more tips and techniques that develop this concept.
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